The Real Methods Kids Explore When Looking For Porn That Their Parents Can't Risk Missing

Uncategorized Mar 22, 2019

Have you ever stopped to wonder and ask yourself why it is that kids can always seem to find porn when they're browsing the internet? Do you know how they actually find porn on even the tightest of security systems? I know that it's not something parents or school districts want to think about. However, this is something parent's need to know about. If we want to know the best way to protect our children from the dangers of targeted pornography campaigns, we need to first know how they are finding it in the first place. Then we can block these methods and further extend our parenting powers to influence and protect our children.

It's Not As Clear As You Would Believe

I want to make it clear that pornography findings I come across are never where you think they will be. I have seen pornography hidden inside of pictures, videos, viruses and video games. We refer to these findings as Easter Eggs since it's a "prize" for whoever can find the hidden "reward". Now, I don't want you to mistake this for the term active gamers use to describe hidden bonus games inside their video games. These are also referred to as Easter Eggs and don't always contain explicit or pornographic content. So, be sure you're watching those games closely. All these YouTube Kids Videos that have those hidden sex scenes in them? Yep, those would be Easter Eggs. So if your kid is downloading and watching a bunch of dumb videos and pictures, I'd take a second look at them if I were you.

They Don't Search With Words You're Blocking

We want to believe that once we put the internet filters on that all porn sites will be blocked. Yet, searches like bras, bikinis, swimsuits, body building competitions, underwear ads, and even high fashion can take a turn for the worst. If you are shopping for bras on the Victoria's Secret Website, it will almost always trigger ads for pornography. You can't underestimate the foreign porn terms either. Yes, kids will look up porn in other languages to throw you off saying it's homework for a language class. And don't believe that these methods are limited just to the internet. I've seen boys as young as 5 gaping at simple Target and Walmart underwear ads. It can also be embedded in unassuming literature like mechanics, boating, car and sporting magazines. It's common to us as adults, but for a child who has never seen it before; it's pornography. This is why parents should use incognito browsing and part of the reason why coders invented it.

Other Search Engines

With that being said, are you aware that kids can change the search engines they use to find things? It's not a super foreign concept. And you don't have to download a whole new internet browser to use a search engine. It's all about the URL (that bar you use to type in a web address). Instead of going to Google.com kids will go to places like DuckDuckGo.com, StartPage.com, or hundreds of others. Not all of these are bad, however, they don't always comply with the internet filter word blocking functions. Every parent should block any and all other search engines that aren't scanned and labeled by the parents as safe for kids to search in.

Watch Out For Images

Parent's may not be aware of it yet, but 90% of the internet is images and internet filters aren't yet restricting images unless they're marked a certain way in code. This means that your kids can type in a search term and, while the actual pages will be blocked, the images won't be. Let's also point out the hidden thing parents will overlook when looking at image searches--searches done with emojis. Yes, kids use these fun images to search for pornography right under our noses. Video still images (usually labeled as previews) can also turn up in these searches. Even for simple, kids sites.

Beware Of Body Terms

Remember, our kids use unconventional words to hide their porn searches. The human body is one of the better ways for them to hide it from their parents. I had a child go through a series of websites doing a report on the pros and cons of cellular reproduction and found pornography several pages down into it. It's impossible to block about all the pornography sites, especially with information that porn companies are certain children will need to use for academic purposes. Oh, and these types of things aren't just limited to school terms. I have seen innocent children's books designed to help parents with potty training, new siblings, marriages, families, etc. that have pornographic type images hidden in them. These types weren't labeled as graphic because they were under the pretense of being "informative" for more literal and liberal parents. However, such exposure can be a grooming tactic for kids; so use your judgement and caution with these materials.

The Romance Stories

Another big place for kids, particularly girls, to find porn is in romance stories; even gossip ones. Kids don't have to go looking for super juicy, explicit stories to be exposed either. Most romance stories in books have sex scenes and explicit make out scenes in them that wouldn't jump out on a parent's radar. The scenes don't even begin to really catch the child's attention until they're halfway through the reading materials and the picture begins to form in their minds. I would also like to point out the art of "life-based" video games here too. Girls have always loved to play house and act out their lives to their happily ever after. Many video games of this style that are targeted for girls to play virtual life, have hidden sexual connotations for girls of young ages. Even stories and news gossip reporting on real-life romances carries a way for pornography to slip in a subtle way.

Comments On Any Website

How? Through the comments. Yes any website can contain a disguised portal to pornography; it's not solely unique to YouTube. Comments with emojis, links or even foreign porn words can start our kids down a slippery slop. Especially when they're already in a site that has juicy romance attached to it. These comments don't even have to link directly to a pornography site. They can lead to a game with an explicit message embedded in it, harmless sports statistics or even subtle strip club advertisements.

Misleading Official Sites

One of the biggest and most commonly known methods kids find pornography is by unassumingly going to sites that appear to be official, but are actually not. An example of this would be nevada.com instead of nevada.gov. These websites are designed to look exactly like the official sites kids are allowed to be on, but have hidden pages with pornography for kids to look at. Most internet filters have the sites blocked, but new ones are being added all the time. This is another example of why parents need to update their parental controls and software as often as possible.

Other Unconventional Methods

The last way kids search for pornography is through unconventional means. Yes, our kids don't always search for pornography inside a traceable web browser. Many of the pornography sites actually state that most kids look for pornography on Social Media sites through hashtags. So instead of doing the searches above, they will simply search a hashtag in Twitter, Instagram or just go on SnapChat. SnapChat even educates our kids on how they can hide pornography searches from us. Parents also need to check photography and video editing apps. These apps, unknown to lots of users, allow users to post photos and videos and share their edited work with an artistic community. A form of art is the human body and I've already talked about the risks that exposes. Not all editing apps allow these images, but it's definitely something parents should be aware of.

Kids will also solicit other kids for their own personal pornographic images through gambling games, sleepovers, and peer pressure. Sexting is a big way that kids are able to obtain porn without mom and dad ever knowing. If kids are smart, they store these images in places like Hidden Apps, Hidden Email Accounts, Finsta Accounts (secondary fake Social Media Accounts parents aren't aware of), and Cloud Storage Places like Google Photos or Dropbox.

Now What Should I Do?

I know that reading these things can be overwhelming and leave you feeling helpless, but I don't want you to think you have to do this alone. I wrote an entire post with all my tips and tricks to dive deep into filtering out pornography in your home. Start there. Then learn and study up on the various ways you can have small conversations with your children about pornography. The best games are won with good defense (this would be your internet filters) and offense (this is would be your knowledge and sharing that with your kids). To learn about ways you can talk to your kids about pornography at any age, try these books written by experts in that field. You can also find lots of helpful tools from these experts at the following sites:

Educate & Empower Kids

Protect Young Eyes

Covenant Eyes

Fight The New Drug

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